Damage Control: Saving A Troubled Relationship
The answer actually depends from person to person. What might work for one couple may not work for the other. Still, there are many things that can be considered as common parts of the solution to a troubled relationship.
Among these common things include good communication. Communication is the very first aspect that needs to be recovered in any troubled relationship. Surely, this is the most common cause on why couples fall apart. A series of miscommunications left untended can cause the messiest breakups and makes both parties unable to appreciate each other’s company. Being able to communicate may come by means of having enough willingness to compromise on both parties or maybe with the help of a professional (a shrink or a church counselor, perhaps).
A bit of space or huge doses of quality time may also help, whichever may be applicable. If a couple has spent too much time apart, they might need to rekindle the old flames of passion and remember what got them together in the first place. On the other hand, if they spend too much time together and leave no more room for equally vital relationships outside their union, it is also detrimental and causes friction even in the smallest things. Balance is the key in achieving a long-lasting bond.
Lifestyle changes may also be in order. The dynamics of relationship change from time to time, and it would be foolish to say that what worked for the couple in the past couple months or years will continue to work wonders for them in the future. When everything becomes a routine, it seems boring. Even the best delicacies become stale when presented in the same way everyday. To infuse the relationship with variety in the form of new activities may help remove the association that it is always there and can therefore be taken for granted.
Ultimately, the willingness of both parties to improve their relationship must be inherently present. If one wants out and the other still wants to hold it out, it is highly unlikely that efforts to reconnect will work for them. If they both gather to make things work again, it may pose some difficulty but nothing that their combined determination cannot overcome.
About the Author: Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. He graduated Magna Cum Laude in May 2006. He is currently the Chief Executive Officer of PlanJam – where you can find tons of first date ideas and cheap date ideas.