Guide to Single Parent Dating
People can become single parents in many ways. First, a man or woman might become a single parent by choice. They might adopt a child on their own or a woman might become pregnant through donor insemination. Second, some people become single parents after the death of their spouse. Finally, most people become single parents as a result of a divorce.
Single parent dating might work best when both people have children. However, it is often the case where one person will have children when the other doesn’t.
So what should you know about dating if you are the single parent? First, realize that it is ok for you to be dating. You will be a better parent if you are happy and fulfilled in your own life outside of your children. Dating with children brings on additional challenges though. You will need to find a babysitter that you trust to watch your children. It is important that you tell your date upfront that you have children, as some people do not want to be in a relationship where there are children involved. It might be disheartening to lose a potential date because of your kids, but it is better to know that up front rather than be broken up with later because you are a parent. Make sure that you are comfortable with the person you are dating…very comfortable...before you let them meet your children. Children can become attached to someone quickly and if your relationship is not serious, your children probably shouldn’t be meeting the person.
If you are dating a single parent, remember that your partner’s children will always come first. If you try to demand a choice between you and the kids, you are likely to end up alone. Be sensitive to situations with the children that require plans to be changed or cancelled. A single parent has a lot on his or her plate and can’t help it if a child gets ill. Be sensitive to the fact that your partner is possibly not used to co-parenting. Don’t discipline your date’s children without first talking to your date.
Although there are some things that must be kept in mind when you are involved in single parent dating, it doesn’t mean anyone should shy away from it. People become single parents for all sorts of reasons and you might find the love of your life, plus fall in love with a child as well.
About the Author: Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. He graduated Magna Cum Laude in May 2006. He is currently the Chief Executive Officer of PlanJam – where you can find fun date ideas and romantic date ideas.