Finding a Match at a Bar or Club
One of the greatest impediments to meeting someone at a bar and/or club is that they often play loud music which makes it difficult to talk. People also tend to become intoxicated at places like this and might not act like they usually would under different circumstances.
If you are out at a bar or club and see someone interesting, what should you do?
The first thing to remember is that most people at a bar or club are looking for dates. It is expected that people will approach other people and talk. If you want people to want to talk to you, donít stay lumped in a small group. A potential suitor will find it intimidating to talk to you in front of a group of your friends.
You donít need to use any cheesy pickup lines or act ridiculous to gain attention. What works best is making eye contact with the person you are interested in. Look them in the eye and smile. If they smile back, then walk over and introduce yourself. It is always much better to do things simple and then ask for more than to start off with a request to dance or buying someone a drink. Sure, these things come later. But first, a simple introduction lets someone know that you are interested in actually meeting them.
Donít be pushy. If a person is not interested, then they arenít interested. There is likely to be many other people around that you might be willing to talk to.
If you are going to a bar or club to try to locate a date, try to lay off the alcohol. Having a drink is fine, but you donít want to become drunk. You are likely to say things that you regret and make yourself look foolish. Remember, this is the first impression you make on someone and you donít want it to be of you being too drunk to walk.
Try to become comfortable with dancing. You donít need to be great, you just need to relax and have a good time. If you absolutely are not willing to dance, then donít just stand against the wall and stare at everyone. Talk to people. Have a good time. People are not drawn to those who look lonely and depressed. If you look like you are having a good time, people will want to have a good time with you.
Finding the love of your life at a bar or club is difficult, but not impossible. Just follow these simple guidelines and you might end being one of the lucky ones.
About the Author: Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. He graduated Magna Cum Laude in May 2006. He is currently the Chief Executive Officer of PlanJam Ė where you can find fun date ideas and then plan a date.