The eight types of Anti-PUA.
If you're reading this, it's very likely you've read "The Game," by Neil Strauss. You may have explored some of the techniques/personalities in the book, put together some routines of your own and maybe joined your local lair. What's next? This article will highlight the 8 types of Anti-PUA as originally introduced by Robert Greene in his classic tome, "The Art of Seduction."
The Game was a great book and a turning point in the seduction community. In a few short weeks, the community went from being underground to common knowledge. Neil Strauss was interviewed on everything from The View to Jimmy Kimmel and the seduction gurus such as Tyler/Papa, Mystery, Ross Jeffries, David DeAngelo and Juggler found a new legion of followers.
I think it's great Neil wrote the book and made a million dollars. I think it's great more men now know about using a strategy when dealing with women, yet I think it downright sucks that more wasn't said about the 8 types of anti-PUA. As a result, many guys run game with arrogance and belligerence rather than confidence. This is not being a PUA. This is being a person who is unlikely to ever be seductive. How many of these types resonate with you?
The brute is completely self-absorbed. He considers his pleasure only and women are merely a means to that end. He is incredibly impatient and will bully and otherwise intimidate to reach an outcome. His massive ego hides deep inferiority and he over reacts at the slightest inconvenience.
Described as "one-itis" in the community, instantly deciding she is the one he has to be with is the trademark of the suffocator. He experiences an endless need that no woman can ever fill. He drives women away when they sense his clinginess and then uses guilt and trauma to torture them into showing him attention. He fails to realize that real love takes time and effort to nurture - not 2 coffee dates and 3 emails.
Unwavering, rigid and a slave to his own standards, the moralizer fails to realize that seduction is fun and something to be enjoyed. His values are a by product of his own unhappiness and he takes great pleasure in nit picking and being critical of the women around him. His aim is to change women to his inflexible way of thinking and dominate them. This is the type who insists his girlfriend cease working as a stripper once they are together.
The tightwad is the poster child of the anti-seducer. He reflects an underlying aversion to any form of risk. This constipated personality manifests itself with money, for he is also very cheap. He views his pathetic gifts as being immensely generous and yet fails to realize that giving more of himself and his money would make him more seductive. However, too much generosity is just as bad - it appears pathetic and no one likes to think they are being bought.
If boldness attracts, then the bumbler certainly repels. So preoccupied with himself, the bumbler exists in a state of heightened anxiety. Self-conscious about every detail, he only has the effect of making others uncomfortable and anxious about their own issues. He constantly worries - about how things are going, about how things will end and will ruin whatever chances he has. To reverse this type requires a lot of inner work.
During the initial stages of a seduction, the PUA must build comfort and trust (rapport) with the woman. We do this through sharing stories, however the windbag fails to realize when it is time to listen to what she has to say. He is laden with the most intense selfishness known. Only the person who cares exclusively about himself lacks the insight to stop and think of his effect on a listener. He also sees an interjection as a challenge and becomes even more determined to bore others into submission.
Like a 7 year old child, the reactor is overly sensitive and highly likely to whine and complain. He pores over every word, searching for any sleight to his ego. He is unable to laugh at himself and any attempt to make light of something he has done will be met with eyes filled with simmering resentment. He takes himself far too seriously and this ultimately repels women.
An attentive nature, tact and decorum are vital to the effective seducer; the vulgarian has none of these. He is unable to control himself and lives at the mercy of his impulses. He displays a certain tastelessness in the way he dresses and has no social intelligence, often saying inappropriate things. He lacks discretion and frequently speaks about the intimate details of his affairs with women. All this is fuelled by a windbag like selfishness where he is unable to even contemplate how others may see him.
If you're honest with yourself, there will be an element of all 8 types that resonates with you. Depending on where you are starting from, removing these from your personality will take some time, because you should never forget, we are changing our entire psychology. Make the choice to stop being insecure and self-absorbed. Take the time to calibrate the other person and become self-aware by noticing when you are being a pest or imposing on a group or simply talking excessively. A woman wants to meet a fun, engaging, charismatic man, not his antithisis, the Anti-PUA.
About the Author: Renegade writes for http://PUAhelpdesk.com and is dedicated to mastering the art of Seduction. He believes that knowledge inspires confidence, confidence inspires action and the more action you take, the more powerful you will become.