Dating And Finding Companionship
Since the advent of time, man has always sought companionship. It
could range from something as platonic as a close friendship to a deep and
lasting marriage with shared responsibilities such as children. For
every person, the question that always comes up is “where can I find that
special someone? How”?
However, finding that special someone is not as simple as it seems.
Each person’s uniqueness and idiosyncrasies, although bringing color and
vibrancy in a relationship, brings risks. But these risks depend on
the expectations on relationships, on one’s knowledge on issues that
could arise, and on a greater great degree, on social skills.
We try to limit the risks by seeking out our special someone from our
own race, our own country or our own religion. We go to places where we
could probably find people with the same sexual preferences as we have.
We seek out friends who may have friends or acquaintances who we could
However, there are some of us who would like something different.
There are some of us who are risk-takers, who have the attitude of
conquering the world and everything it could offer. There are those of us who
are daring, who want something exciting and maybe forbidden. We would
like to take the risks yet limit its consequences.
Although the need for companionship has not changed, there is one
thing that has - TIME. As cities continue to modernize and become more
efficient, more and more companies have organizational structures that
limit physical access to other people. We get tied to a job in an office
cubicle whose only link to the outside world is the internet through a
computer. The time we have to develop and nurture relationships “face to
face” has become extremely limited.
We don’t have the time to go courting as our parents or grandparents
did in the olden times. The matchmaking aunts and relatives that they
had then are virtually extinct as we live our usually solitary lives in
our city apartments. Our human “face to face” inter-actions are now
limited to a few officemates and a great number of nameless faces we see
as we walk through the streets to and from work.
But companionship is a basic human need. We seek to find our match
yet lack the time to do so. We want to keep in touch with our roots and
establish links thru relationships yet lack the time to do so. We want
to find our “soul mates”, the person who shares our inner most beliefs,
but are limited again by time and for others, space as they spend their
lives in 9 to 5 jobs in an office cubicle.
But there is hope. The internet frightening though it seems, with its
non-physical characteristic except for the usual PC or laptop, opens to
us a gateway. It links us to a vast resource of people seeking out
The internet introduces to us the concept of on-line dating. This
phenomenon allows us to get to know people, screen them and size them up in
an almost risk-free venue. We could go from one relational level to
the next with ease and cut off right away if it gets too close. All
these can happen with just a PC and a laptop on hand.
Now all we need is the skill, the know-how and the right organization
to get what all of us need from dating that the internet could offer.
If only we could find the link of all links what could link us with our
ultimate “soul-mate”, we shall look at our PC or laptop as the gateway
to that source of joy and excitement. But the link has to be there or
we would be wasting the one precious commodity that we can’t afford to
waste – TIME.
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