International Adoption - Helpful Hints to Adoptive Parents on Child Adoption
International adoption opportunities are available for people to be able to adopt babies, children and older children; you just need to know where to look and to whom the correct people are to talk to. By this we mean, the correct Local, Private or Governmental Agencies.
If at all possible, try and learn as much as you can about the child you are trying to adopt – this might not be that possible and if it appears impossible then ask yourself why? There may be a reason for this and sadly or tragically, you may want to reconsider your position on this if the correct answers to the pertinent questions aren’t forthcoming. At the end of the day, sometimes a leap of faith is required should you feel suitably motivated. International Adoption is not easy.
If you can (and you should), avoid telling any other members of your extended family everything you know about your child’s background – something’s a child likes to keep private and especially any negative experiences should be shared when the child feels the time is right and is comfortable.
At all times do not keep the fact that they are adopted secret from your child. Openly admit that they have been adopted and that it was your love and desire for them to join your family that prompted this decision and share this information as and when they are ready to understand this. Mention that sadly their parents weren’t able on this occasion to be able to care for them but that you were.
A lot of adopted children grow up to be successful and happy adults. Some even go on to be world leaders in their chosen field. Others are just plain good nice people and the world needs lots of these.
Being adopted can affect children sometimes but it is important to remember that at all times these children are just that, children and remember to give them lots of love and understanding and with that you can help then gain their true potential.
Nobody is perfect, neither you nor your child. Sometimes perfection is just too impossible to achieve and so don’t try.
Try to create a positive environment and try to use positive language such as birth mother instead of real mother. Remember also that it does take time to change people’s attitudes.
If your adult child decides he or she wishes to try and find their birth parent, this doesn’t automatically mean that you have failed them in any way, they need your support. You were there for them when they needed it most and this will always be remembered
The one thing you must always do is to ignore those who tell you that adoption is in anyway substandard to biological parenting. If they have never tried adopting someone, how would they know?
About the Author: Stephen Morgan writes regularly on social matters and is editor of http://www.adoptionusa.info, http://www.internationaladoptioninformation.com and http://www.internationaladoptionusa.info